Are you in a Dead Marriage? Do you have Lifeless emotions for each other?
Is your marriage in need of a resurrection?
Are you both willing to try to start over?
You Can Have Your Miracle and Live It Too!
Start Again from Scratch is the real-life, no-fail recipe Laine Lawson Craft and her husband Steve put to the test to revive their failing marriage. After 17 years of misery, the Crafts decided to throw out the marital mess they had burnt to a crisp and cook up a whole new recipe for wedded bliss.
Fourteen years later, the happy couple are not only husband and wife but also the very best of friends, parents of three grown children who can’t wait to retire someday, sit on the front porch and watch some spectacular sunsets.
Start Again from Scratch was written for desperate couples on the brink of divorce, couples who, as Steve once said of Laine, “would rather live the rest of their lives with the devil than spend one more minute with their husband or wife.”
Laine and Steve use the metaphor of cooking to show couples how to add fresh quality ingredients like forgiveness and trust into whole new recipe for marriage, then follow the right directions to serve up a delicious new marriage dish. Laine even includes some of her favorite recipes at the end of each chapter, in hopes that satisfied stomachs will help heal hurting hearts.
Every couple, but especially those who think there is no hope left, can experience a miracle if you both are willing, then read this book and follow the recipe for a whole new life. As the Crafts can tell you, the proof is in the pudding (and don’t miss Laine’s fantastic homemade Banana Pudding recipe at the end of the book).
When Steve and I got married 30 plus years ago, we never dreamed our first 17 years could become hell on earth. I never thought there would come a day when I would love to hate my husband. Here was the man I had vowed to love until the day one of us died, and for most of those first 17 years I prayed his death would come quickly. And preferably at my hands.
Maybe you are at that same desperate point in your own marriage. Maybe you think your marriage is so far gone nothing could fix it. Not even a miracle. You don’t even know why you picked up this book. But you did pick it up. We’re so glad you did.
Inside this book lies the story of the honest-to-goodness miracle that happened in our marriage. We discovered a secret that in a single instant could erase 17 years’ worth of arguments, mistrust, broken promises, curse words, and hate. In one conversation and one prayer, all the parts of our marriage that we had burned beyond recognition fell away. It happened when Steve and I made a decision together to start again from scratch.
Maybe that sounds too simple, but believe us, it worked. We got our love back. We kept our family together. We preserved our legacy. We prevented our children’s hearts from breaking. We discovered sizzling sex. We became best friends.
The changes stuck too. We started again from scratch 14 years ago, and today our marriage is better than ever. We love each other more, like each other tremendously, and can’t wait to live to a ripe old age together.
The best part of our miracle is now we get to share it with you. Every couple can do the same thing we did and decide together to start again from scratch. That’s why we call this the “no-fail recipe for reviving your marriage.”
If you grab all the ingredients we suggest and follow the directions carefully (Don’t forget a heaping helping of our “Secret Sauce),” in no time at all you’ll be cooking up a brand new relationship with your same old spouse. One that tastes better than you ever could have dreamed.
Better than chocolate peanut butter pie. Better than your grandma’s sour cream poundcake with buttercream icing. Better than the tastiest filet mignon with homemade burgundy shallot mushroom sauce or the most luscious lobster dripping with butter. (We could continue, but the list is making us hungry.)
How about it? Are you feeling the hunger pangs for change? Thirsty for a brand new relationship? Tired of living on a marital diet of mistrust, dishonesty, contempt, and criticism? Whether you have been married five months or 15 years, that kind of negative diet has not made you a lean, mean marriage machine. Nope. Instead, we bet it has packed on the pounds of loneliness, bitterness, and resentment. Every day, you feel heavier and heavier as all the junk in your marital trunk weighs you down.
Today is the day you can shed the extra weight and start again from scratch. Right now. This minute, you and your spouse can experience the same miracle Steve and I had. Sooner than you think, you will be having your miracle and living it too. We can’t wait ’til you try a bite.
We are so excited to share with you the ways we learned how to Start Again from Scratch: A No-Fail Recipe for Reviving Your Marriage. Inside these chapters, you will find special ingredients that will bring your love back to life. You’ll discover directions that will help you combine these fresh ingredients in the very best way to spice up your marriage and make it a sizzling success.
Each chapter of Start Again from Scratch contains some of our personal story and a new ingredient or direction for your marriage. The chapters start with my (Laine’s) insight, followed by some of Steve’s perspective. We thought it was important for couples to hear both sides of the story, from the wife and the husband. As husband and wife, male and female, Steve and I process things differently. We also feel differently and act and react differently. In order to capture the full picture of our marriage restoration, we believe you, the readers, can benefit best from the input of both of us.
At the end of each chapter, you will find a “recipe” of action points for you to take and build upon, plus a “recipe card” journaling page to add your own notes and tweaks. We encourage you to write down what you are doing and feeling as your recipe unfolds. It will be a powerful dish to share with others soon.
Finally, the last page of each chapter is an actual recipe of ours you can carry into your kitchen and try. Food brings comfort, and these are some of our family’s favorite no-fail recipes to help fill your stomach and nourish your bodies as you work hard to renew your hearts.
No matter how bad your marriage is today, if you both are willing, it can be transformed by tomorrow. We know it can. We’re living proof. So please join us now on the journey. We promise if you start again from scratch and follow our no-fail recipe, your marriage will revive and thrive.
Then you can share your miracle story too.
Livin’ Lively with love,
START AGAIN FROM SCRATCH EVENTS
OPTION 1: A TWO-DAY EVENT
Friday Night: 7:00 p.m. – closing time (TBD by facilitator)
Laine and Steve will share their testimony in a smaller group setting to leadership and/or group leaders. This will be an intimate and safe setting to engage with Laine and Steve. They will guide the participants through the steps and provide practical application needed to revive marriages. There will be an anonymous Q&A session (questions will be submitted confidentially at the break) for Laine and Steve to answer personal questions about marriage issues and needs. These questions are designed to answer the participant’s personal marriage issues and/or answer questions about marriages for which they are concerned. This interactive Q&A is the most powerful part of the event, whereas, deep personal issues are addressed.
The suggested Friday night event time schedule is:
|7:00 p.m. – 8:30 p.m.||Laine and Steve share and instruct|
|8:30 p.m. – 8:45 p.m.||Break|
|8:45 p.m. – closing||Anonymous Q&A segment|
On Saturday morning, Laine and Steve will gather again to a community or church event offering a larger group of participants. They will share their testimony and set up the foundation for marriage restoration. It is suggested an onsite brown bag lunch is provided with fellowship time to assist with scheduling. Laine and Steve will continue to share steps and practical applications on how to move marriage through the restoration. In this closing session, Laine and Steve will help couples find resurrection power in areas of their marriages that they thought were dead.
The suggested Saturday morning/afternoon schedule is:
|10:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m.||Testimony and Foundation for Marriage Restoration|
|11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.||Brown Bag Lunch|
|12:30 p.m. – 2:30 p.m.||Additional Teaching and Closing|
Cost: FREE- all that is required is travel payment and a good will offering at the close of each day session.
OPTION 2: A ONE DAY EVENT
Laine and Steve will come to your community event or church event offering a larger group of participants. Steve and Laine will share their testimony and set up the basic foundation for marriage restoration. It is suggested an onsite brown bag lunch is provided with fellowship time to assist with scheduling. Laine and Steve will continue to share steps and practical applications on how to move marriage through the restoration. In this closing session, Laine and Steve will help couples find resurrection power in areas of their marriages that they thought were dead.
The anonymous Q&A sessions are designed to answer the participant’s personal marriage issues and/or answer questions about marriages for which they are concerned. This interactive Q&A is the most powerful part of the event, whereas, deep personal issues are addressed.
|10:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m.||Session 1|
|11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.||Lunch break|
|12:30 – closing||Session 2|
Cost: FREE – all that is required is travel expense and a good will offering at the close of the event.
OPTION 3: GET AWAY WEEKEND AT THE BEACH
This option is for both small and larger groups and is be held in Destin, Florida at the gulf coast of Florida. It offers couples a romantic getaway at the beach along with the Start Again from Scratch Event. The format is OPTION 1 but held at the beach location. Participants will mix the beach, sun, fun, and the event all in one weekend.
COST: Room and food for the participants. The charge from Laine and Steve is free. All that is required is a love offering at the end of each closing.